Tuesday, 11 November 2014


It's Single's Day in China!
Which is celebrated by staying home and shopping online (I'm not joking) This is a day most embraced by Alibaba who made 1.8 billion in the first hour of frenetic shopping.
I was told that Single's Day isn't a day where you celebrate "forever alone" - rather, it's their version of Valentine's Day. In the eyes of the Chinese, a couple is viewed as a single entity hence the name, Singles can celebrate it to since they are considered as a single entity by themselves.

In light of today and the barrage of questions I have been made to field about my love life of late, I shall publicly release a statement to say that "No, I never had a boyfriend. But yes, I've dated. And no, I'm not exactly looking for one right now. So yes, I'm gonna die alone with my cats/dogs"

Of course that is not to say that I don't believe in love or anything. I love the idea of love as much as the next person - like Jack and Rose or Hazel and Augustus and I would love to be in love. It's beautiful.

But then in our chase to find someone to love us, we always forget to love ourselves. How can you expect someone to love you when you can't even love yourself? Most of the time, you'll end up falling for someone who's not going to love you back. That's why it's so important to be able to come to terms with yourself first.

And that's exactly where I am - at the juncture in my life where I need to be able to focus on myself and resolve all my internal conflicts. I'll whine and grouch about how I'm crazy about whoever but in all seriousness, I can scarcely fathom the idea of being in a commitment and being accountable to someone else at the cost of compromising myself. It's not selfish, it's self-preservation.

I really appreciate all the advice and encouragement to find somebody but I'm just going to leave it up to God to take this one. If it's meant to be, it will be. If it isn't, then I'm glad I like animals.

"And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28

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